The person pictured above looks like he just got unstuck – which brings me to the second half of our discussion.
Being stuck in anything, or maybe in your life in general, can feel terrible. You don’t know how to change things or wonder if you will always feel this way. Maybe the tip from yesterday about writing for 10 minutes, everything and anything you can think of, could be switched up a little. Try this:
1. The routines in your life are there so you can devote the extra time you need to do brainstorming and trying new things until you have a solution. In other words, structure is good – don’t throw out your normal duties or activities. They will keep you grounded. At times, I still am trying to learn this one…
2. Over and over, do what you know is right to do, i.e. take care of yourself physically and spiritually. If possible, allow yourself to ease away from extra commitments and activities that aren’t helping you. (By the way, you don’t have to defend your decisions. “No” is enough on its own.) Treat yourself well as you would treat another friend.
3. Write down what you feel stuck in/about. If you can’t stand journaling, then writing that sentence or word is enough. If you do like to write, pretend someone is interviewing you, and write down more details about your situation and what you think you could do to change things…or accept…
4. Consult a) a person who is a good listener and b) someone who might have gone through what you are going through right now. If this person is trustworthy, then that’s your person! Two heads ARE better than one if you are open to the possibilities. If it’s hard for you to talk to anyone about this, then it’s time to pray! Pray expecting answers – they might not come right away, or they can come overnight like it happened to me a little while back. 🙂
I was fortunate to have a good friend of mine fit both a) and b). For about a year, we met every couple weeks or so for coffee and discussion. On the days we walked both floors of the mall twice, we got our exercise in, too – all in one fell swoop. Our support really kept us going. Here’s to you, ___, and thanks!
5) After doing all you can, now it’s time to relax. Not everything will last forever. “This, too, shall pass”. You are exactly where you are meant to be, right now. Just grab a little faith and hope, and realize you’re okay….stuck or not.