I was talking to some wise friends the other day, and I suddenly discovered how I could stop spinning my wheels.
How do I spin my wheels? I get so enthusiastic about life, and I’m curious about so many things, that I seem to want to try everything new or different – all at once! Not a very practical way to go, I admit. It turns out that I get a few things done or tried and the rest are running around in my mind, waiting for me to get “organized” so I can do everything!
Hmmm, case in point of a perfectionistic mindset. I have become less of a black-and-white thinker in the past couple years, but I still tread the path of striving to knock perfectionism out of my life. I’m learning that “good is good enough” and “you are where you are, so start there.” Superwoman I am not, and I no longer try to be. Yet, (and this is because of my cancer experience) I am so afraid that I won’t achieve my goals and dreams before my life is over, that I want to do everything now. (My cancer, incidentally, is 100% gone, and my life expectancy is as long as it was pre-cancer. So, I’m guessing this is just another perfectionism thing rearing its ugly head.)
AND NOW – this is what I learned from my friends, and I am on Day One of living this way:
- Choose the one or two most important habits or goals you want to work on. Only one or two! You will have time for the rest!
- Keep on doing whatever else in your life works for you, and also concentrate on these new habits. (Being consistent with a small amount is better than floundering at many.)
- After three weeks (the average time it takes for a new habit to be more ingrained), choose one or two more habits while keeping on with the new habit you’ve already adopted into your life.
- In three more weeks, choose another habit…
I’m wondering if a person keeps on adding new habits, when will they run out of time each day to incorporate all of them? I’ll let you know when I find out, as my list of possibilities is very long! Be sure to comment here if you can inform us on the subject. Maybe some of the habits can be brought down a notch to “every other day” or “once a week” to make room and time for the new ones…that seems un-perfectionistic to me. 🙂