You can determine to get the perfectionism monkey off your back. When you let go, your life may become calmer.
Yesterday when I had a day off work and Minnesota was in the midst of a snowstorm, I chose to be home all day. For a homebody like myself, that wasn’t a hard decision. But what I did at home is something that’s different for me…
1. Usually I write a “to-do” list that’s longer than anyone could possibly do in one day. Today I just said, “I’ll clean the lower level today, and that’s all.”
2. I started the dishwasher, washed a load of clothes and cleaned the bathroom. ON PURPOSE I left a few smudge marks on the mirrors! Kind of like therapy that puts you right in the middle of a situation you hate. (aversion therapy?) I used to have to clean everything perfectly (or so I thought), but today I deliberately didn’t clean in an excellent manner. And you know what? I felt good about it!
3. Vaccuuming and dusting were “supposed to” come next. But, lo and behold, my heart was pulling me upstairs to my office. I wanted to write very much, and so I did. Sometimes maybe I need to follow my heart, even if it’s for a small decision.
4. Well, my perfectionism (new, toned-down version) was ready to say, “But you didn’t clean the whole lower level like you wanted to!” But alas, all of a sudden I was saying to myself, “what you cleaned today is a good start to cleaning plans you had for the weekend.” No harm done! And I still accomplished something. 🙂
5. I want to remember to speak kindly to myself like in #4. I hope you are thinking the same thing about yourself.