More words to get out of your vocabulary:
“If only.” If only I could get married, if only I had children, if only I made more money….if – if – if! But that’s a fantasy – – your life is what you make it, and one particular event will not give you happiness. The only way you can get perfectionism out of your life is to be happy for what you do have and who you are and what you are doing currently. If you can’t – then feel free to make changes. Just remember : having a mental checklist of the things you think will make you happy is a dead-end road.