I finally sat down with a banker’s box full of letters from my dad and mom. Of course I always miss them, them having passed on several years ago, but now I miss them more! Reading the letters was such a good thing. I felt I was being affirmed for myself, since I was just like my father, and his words (and little drawings) made me laugh out loud. He had such a unique way of saying things!
The letters also brought up things that I had forgotten, even though I have an excellent memory. I realized that all these years when I was telling myself that they didn’t really care, they didn’t love me unconditionally, etc., I was ignoring the things they said once in awhile (just in letter form): We are so proud of you. We can’t wait till we see you again. You are a generous person. People want copies of your editorial that you wrote for your church newsletter. Please send a monthly copy to our Pastor, he’s got to read them!
This shows me that even writing a letter to someone can have a profound effect on them – so if you’re saying something good – tell them often! No detail is too small where love is concerned! This is good advice for other relationships, too, besides parent to child (even if adult child): sibling to sibling, sibling to grandparent, friend to friend, friend to teacher or professor, and the list goes on and on. And, the old fashioned way of sending letters – with actual stationery and pen – is a very great way to do it. I think our mailboxes get too full of bills and ads and not many letters anymore! That is the sad thing about the technical age – we often lose the personal touch.
This brings me to my next point – and it is one that I have often said. Let the people you love know that you love them. Some people, like myself, aren’t aware of that fact. I don’t care if you’re not the huggy-touchy-feely type, or if you’re uncomfortable with saying things like that to someone. DO IT ANYWAY, and make their day! 🙂
Speaking of which, I love you. I’m so glad you’re in my life. Have a wonderful day!
- The Positive Rejection (vastimaginations.wordpress.com)
- Letters, hand-delivered. Message of love and hope, heard. (promisetowriteback.wordpress.com)
- Letters to My Daughter- September 2013 (kristingourley.wordpress.com)
- A letter to the people who have Desirai (authormarjoriesimmons.wordpress.com)
- Father finds daughter after 17 years apart thanks to letter in shop window (metro.co.uk)