The Sunshine Factor

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Day 20 Antiperfectionism Series

Let surprises be a delight instead of a minor catastrophe.

So often in life, perfectionists have a scenario etched into their brains:  how everything should be; when they will finally be in a new job; the kind of person they will marry, etc etc. ETC!  Actually, the element of surprise can be a good thing — life is certainly never dull when you expect to have your plan feathers ruffled here and there.


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What I Don’t Expect

Did this really happen?!

Blue Jay

Rooster: “I’m the cat’s bait, but how come he’s not moving?”
Cat: “Mother never told me hunting would be this easy. How fast can he fly?”

Here you see pictures of an unlikely event.  I just love them because they are so out-of-the-ordinary, a cat and bird getting along (for now, anyway!).

A little old lady was given two pieces of candy by the Santa Claus in her grocery store, and he talked to her in a kindly manner.  It made her cry, to think that someone thought of her and didn’t dismiss her because she was “too old”.   (That Santa Claus was my father.) I never expected to get cancer, either – It would only happen to other people…and three years after the fact, it seems like it never happened.  🙂 Today, six blue jays were flying together by my study  window – first to the porch (whose edge I can see from my window), then to the big bushes, then up to my roof and down to the oak tree.  What is truly amazing is the fact that they didn’t squawk like crows do when they get together (blue jays are in the same family of birds as crows).  They kind of whined, didn’t really sing, and they sounded sort of like puppies! I am finding out that there are many things that happen that really surprise me.  I forget that not everything out there is written in stone, and change can be good.  🙂  What are your thoughts on the subject?English: Photo of Jonathan G. Meath portraying...

Blue Jay Portrait


The Seasons

Canadian goldenrod

Canadian goldenrod (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Summer Garden

Summer Garden (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.”

— Ecclesiastes 3:1

I love the seasons here in the Midwest – usually – and even when hay fever  and allergies start in August and you wonder how can the goldenrod be so beautiful if it causes such misery, I am glad to be in a place where the landscape changes periodically.  It’s kind of like life – sometimes predictable but there is always room for surprises.

The seasons of life vary for each person but basically run like this:

Childhood:  when you learn so much and the whole world (and life) is before you.

Teenage:  when there is angst among the fun, when questions are asked that may not always get answered.

Adult:  Career and being an adult and having to make mature decisions sets in.  Families are started (or not).  Sometimes people refer to things in their past as “BD” or “AD” – before divorce or after divorce.  And some have an idyllic life (or at least it seems this way).  Grief sets in at some point or another.  Sometimes there is so much joy in a heart that a person doesn’t know what to do with it.  🙂  What is universal to us all is the fact that life doesn’t really stand still, and changes happen.  It’s encouraging to know that even if something is terrible or unpleasant to go through, things will get better again.

August full moon

August full moon (Photo credit: Stelios Kiousis)

You’ve probably heard the saying that goes something like this:  “some friends are here for a season, some for a reason, and some are for always.”  I think this is so true.  It can even apply to my blog – I may have readers who stick with me till the last day I write, some who come for help in a particular area and leave when that need is met, and some for just a time.  Whatever you are here for, and however long you stay with me, is fine.  I do want you to know, though, that I already liken you to people whom I want with me for all time.  I love you all, and I hope I can be a good friend to you.Snow across the midwestern United States






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